I see girls constantly pinning, retweeting, and posting
“dream future engagement rings” on Pinterest, Twitter, and Facebook. In case
you were unaware, this is a daily hot topic among young women. DAILY. It seems
that at this stage in our lives (college-ish) the cut, color, and style of our
future engagement ring is like, a big deal or something.
WHY?!
I heard a girl the other day say that she wants a certain
size ring (big) or she’s not going to like it. And to be completely realistic,
more than half of the rings I see on social media are expensive for 99% of
America. Excuse me, but are you marrying your RING or your HUSBAND who spent a
lot of money to get you that ring? And it shouldn’t matter how much money he
spends, anyway.
HE BOUGHT IT BECAUSE HE LOVES YOU.
He didn’t have to take the time out of his day to think
about you. He didn’t have to spend his
money that he earned to commit his entire life to you. Plain and
simple, he didn’t have to do any of that. But he chose to. He chose you.
He chose a ring that he would like to
see on your finger for the rest of y’all’s
lives together. An engagement ring is not just for you, ladies. An engagement
ring is a privilege you get to show off to the world that you are on your way
to being off the market for good.
By the time my relationship with my boyfriend gets to the
point where he is shopping for rings, I trust his judgment. I trust he knows my
‘style’ enough and who I am as a person enough to pick out a ring that he
thinks fits my personality. Whatever he spends his time and money on is special
enough in itself that I will appreciate it no matter what it looks like. (By
the way, it’s kind of hard to make a diamond look bad…) When the time comes
that I am lucky enough to have a diamond slipped onto my hand, I can guarantee
you I won’t be looking at the color, cut, or style. My eyes will be filled with
tears, my nose will be running, and I will be embracing the MAN that I will
spend the rest of my life with, not the RING. (Sorry, I’m a crier).
So ladies, stop ‘shopping’ for your imaginary engagement ring. We are bombarded so frequently with this idea that money and a nice ring play a significant role in our future. I’m guilty of fantasizing, too. But I stop and remind myself that it’s the man I marry that is going to matter, not what is on my hand. Diamonds are not going to be the most important part of your marriage. I can guarantee you that.
xoRO
So ladies, stop ‘shopping’ for your imaginary engagement ring. We are bombarded so frequently with this idea that money and a nice ring play a significant role in our future. I’m guilty of fantasizing, too. But I stop and remind myself that it’s the man I marry that is going to matter, not what is on my hand. Diamonds are not going to be the most important part of your marriage. I can guarantee you that.
xoRO
